Why the Most Successful People Use Rituals and Patterns to Achieve Their Goals

Be like Mark…he’s a billionaire.


“The ritual of our daily lives permeate our very bodies.”
— Banana Yoshimoto

Every morning, my alarm clock goes off at 4:15 am, and I turn my clock off and jump out and go through the motions of getting ready for the day like I’m on autopilot.

It’s funny because many people ask me why I get up so early and do many things at the beginning of the day (write, read, workout), and it’s not because I WANT to do this.

I’m similar to everyone else in that I would much rather lay in the bed and snuggle with my wife some more while simultaneously trying to stop our 9-year-old Siamese cat from inserting himself between us like he thinks he owns the place…seems to be what a lot of cats do for some reason.

However, I have developed a specific pattern of things that I do in the morning that allows me to get all of the important things out of the way to ensure that I am not being a lazy a** and doing the things that I know I need to do to be successful in life.

Some people (definitely a few previous girlfriends) would say this was boring, and I need to be a bit more spontaneous, but for me, spontaneity was a chance that I would allow my emotional logic to talk me out of doing what I needed to do.

It’s not like I WANTED to workout at the a** crack of dawn each morning, but I had created a ritual around doing it because I knew I needed to do so to keep my girlish figure in shape (I’m 41, so this sh*t doesn’t get easier with time).

There are a few reasons that this has helped me tremendously in life and why I would suggest really giving it a try if you are thinking you struggle with achieving your daily and weekly goals.

I’m not by myself, however. Some of the most successful people in the world have been known to do and even wear the same things most days and have found a number of positive reasons for this.

I don’t know all of their reasons for doing so. I suspect a terrible fashion sense with Mark Zuckerberg, but I could be wrong…🤷🏽.

However, for me, there are a few specific reasons why I live by my daily rituals.

Prevents me from talking myself out of doing it

As shared in this previous article about how I taught myself to be a morning person instead of hitting the snooze button a million times and snuggling more with my wife, this is also why I use rituals.

By having certain things that I always do each day without having to put too much thought into it, I am guaranteed to follow through with it.

Had I given myself a choice to work out on either Monday or Tuesday, there is about a 99% chance on Monday, I’m going to find a “great” reason why Tuesday would be the better day for me to work out this week.

Funny enough, once Tuesday comes along, there is going to be an equally “great” reason why another day is a better day to work. When you give yourself too many choices, you invariably open yourself up to find a reason that you cannot do it today

And success is not about finding reasons you CAN’T do something.

Therefore, when I know I do certain things at certain times in certain order, sure it might seem a little Bill Murray and Groundhog Day, but it ensures I get the sh*t done. Regardless of how boring it is or how much I don’t want to do it that day, I go through with the task because it’s what I do and how I do it.

It builds an almost robot-like commitment in me (think Terminator with Arnold Schwarzenegger) in that I don’t even consider other options as being a possibility of deterring me from my path. Kill Sarah Connor or protect John Connor (whatever my directive), I’m sticking to that thing like your overweight cousin sticks to the belief that he weighs so much because he’s “big-boned.”

Believing anything is possible is just not an option.

Creates momentum

At first, this is going to be hella hard.

Becoming a cyborg robot is not something that happens overnight.

However, with time and a consistent commitment allow your emotions logic to sway your judgment, you will find that things will get easier each day as you follow through with doing what you said.

Momentum is an amazing thing in that as soon as you get that baby swinging, you don’t have to put so much force into it anymore to maintain it.

It will take a bit of time (some say 21 days…some say 28 days…let’s just say about a month), but if you stay consistent and just fight through the desire to not do something, you’ll find the resistance and the thought of you not doing it will slowly begin to dissipate with time.

This magical dissipation (is that even a word…it doesn’t quite feel right, but apparently it is since Grammarly didn’t underline it) will even turn into you eventually beginning to LIKE doing whatever thing your pre-rebot version thought was so terrible.

The change will surprise the f*ck out of you when you finally realize that you are actually one of those people that you used to hate because you actually are looking FORWARD to waking up in the morning…say whaaaat?

Rituals and momentum will do that.

Gives me more brain power for other things

And lastly, this is the one that I probably appreciate the most.

At forty-one years of age, I recognized the fact that I have a lot of random sh*t in my head. For that reason, it is a bit more challenging for me to remember stuff the way I used to when I was younger.

When I was a teenager, I could tell you every member of Duke’s 1992 men’s college basketball championship team, even the kids who were walk-ons and only got in the game with garbage time.

Now, I would be lucky to remember the name of A player on Duke’s roster.

There are two reasons for this:

  1. They just aren’t that good…haven’t been since Zion was there last and
  2. I just have way more important stuff to spend my brain power on than some of the names of college basketball players who only affect my life by giving me some random entertainment on a Wednesday night at 9pm.

Overall, I have a lot that I need to accomplish every day, and I need as much of my brain computing power to accomplish it as possible.

With that being said, if I can eliminate a few things that will not use up any synapses as it relates to making decisions, then I will absolutely do so.

This often relates to what I eat for meals, as well as what I do for entertainment on most nights.

Why break something that isn’t broken (my routines that work) and why use brainpower on something that you should already have the answer to.

The answer is YES. Get your a** out of bed and go work out.

You might not feel great about it right now, but when you have chiseled rock-hard abs like Arnold ONCE had or a pretty healthy bank account like Mark currently has, you’ll thank me..and robotic self.